If you haven’t read it about it already, there was a cop from Toronto that recently spoke at a campus safety information session and said women can avoid being sexually assaulted by not dressing like “a slut.”
Dear Mr. Officer,
I don’t care if I’m wearing the sluttiest outfit or a skimpy top or if I’m totally naked. What I choose to wear does NOT, by ANY means, give anyone the right to sexually assault me. My clothing or how I act or what I’ve had to drink, doesn’t excuse a man from sexually assaulting me. My slutty outfit is NOT an open invitation for a man to rape me.
The fact that he said this proves that there is still a mindset about blaming the victim of rape or sexual assault. This is precisely why so many women are afraid to come forward after they have been raped. They’re afraid that someone will say, “well you know, you were dressed a little slutty tonight.” They’re afraid that they won’t be believed or that they’ll be told they shouldn’t have been walking alone or had that last drink.
A woman’s outfit is often used during a rape trial to discredit her reputation and suggest she is the “sort of woman” unlikely to refuse consent to sex.
Someone needs to take the time to educate this cop about the facts and reasons behind rape. Rape is violent. Rape is not about sex it’s about control and power. Rape is not about what I decide to wear. I’m not sure when we all starting thinking that if a man is sexually aroused he becomes this uncontrollable monster and can’t stop himself. Men are not animals. We should be able to hold them to a higher standard.
1 in 4 women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime.
I want you to think of four women you know. Your mom, your sister, your friend, your girlfriend, your grandma, your daughter. Based on the statistics at least one of those women has been sexually assaulted. How can we be okay with this? How can we be ok with a police officer who has taken an oath to upload the law has the audacity to say something as sexist and insulting as, women can help prevent their own sexual assault if they cover up more?
The students that were at the meeting where this cop made the statement are demanding an apology. Lets be honest, an apology is not enough. If there’s one cop out there that really believes this, that means there’s plenty more. This is going to deter many more women from coming forward and suffering in silence after they’ve been assaulted. This needs to stop. More men need to man up and be part of the fight to end sexual violence. Enough is enough.
If you are a victim of rape here are some places you can go for help (I wouldn’t suggest starting with the cop at the Toronto police department.):