Her Dress is Not a Yes

23 Jun

I’ve been spearheading the SlutWalk Tampa coordinating the last few weeks and haven’t had too much time for blogging and writing over here, but there’s been a lot of cool stuff going on over at SlutWalkTampa.com. 

When I offered to organize the SlutWalk here, I knew it was a HUGE undertaking, but I also knew that there’d be many other women who’d want to get involved and I just had to trust that people would come out and offer to help. Over the past month or so I have received so many emails from people who want to get involved. The support has been incredible and I can only imagine it will continue to grow.

One girl in particular, Teagan, emailed me and said she was a rape survivor and that she wanted to get involved. I can’t tell you why, but for some reason I felt like I needed to ask her to get more involved. She told me she was a writer and that she’d love to help with the website. Her first post, Rape: Not a Casual Word was beautiful, powerful and inspiring. Then, I asked her if she’d be interested in doing a response to an article from Daily Mail Online, where celebrity lawyer, Nick Freeman, said, “girls who wear ‘racy’ underwear and skimpy tops made it clear they had one thing on their minds: sex.” He goes on to say about the SlutWalk movement,

“Those taking part claimed women should be able to wear whatever they like in public – including racy red underwear – without being judged and their motives questioned. But, as a red-blooded alpha male, let me state unequivocally that I believe how a woman dresses (and behaves in that dress) tells a man what’s on her mind.”

I wasn’t expecting Teagan’s response to be so incredible! She posted the video below and I love it! You can read the original post here. I love that she’s a young confident woman, with the courage to speak out and be so honest about her experience. I hope that she inspires many other women because I know she has inspired me. Keep it up Teagan!

For more about SlutWalk Tampa visit www.SlutWalkTampa.com or ‘like’ us on facebook at www.Facebook.com/SlutWalkTampa

Feminism Worth a Thousand Words

13 Jun

Slutwalk London - No means no by RenderDonkey on Flickr.

I love Sean Avery

11 May

Who could forget the Avery rule . . .

As a hard core New York Rangers fan, I’ve always loved Sean Avery. I love his shit-talking, his dirty plays, and his amazing talent on the ice. I love that he interned with a fashion magazine in the off-season after the Rangers got knocked out of the playoffs, and I love that he openly admitted his love for women’s clothing, especially handbags. He’s the kind of player you love if he’s on your team, but can’t stand if his on the other team. And now, after his public show of support for marriage equality, I love him even more! He’s a tough, dirty, skilled, athlete speaking out for what he believes in, even though he’s taking a lot of shit for it.

I may be his new number one fan (in a very not-stalker kind of way, of course). Keep doing what your doing Avery! It only takes one person to make a difference!

Here’s the video from the HRC:

Thank You Mom . . .

8 May

Me and my Momma!

For loving and teaching me to love every part of myself, my body, my heart, and my mind.

For acting like it was no big deal when I wanted the black baby doll when I was little. You taught me to never judge anyone because of their appearance or their beliefs, even when they were different from mine.

For believing in my dreams and giving me the courage to go after them.

For always making the BEST halloween costumes! Princesses, Minny Mouse, and even a Troll!

For having the strength to leave a marriage that was hurting you. It showed me that we always deserve to be treated right and to be happy.

For being a room mom, a Girl Scout leader, a marching band volunteer, and the manager of our sports teams.

For being open and honest with me about sex and discovering my own sexuality and teaching me to love myself as a sexual being and to never be ashamed of that.

For embracing and trying to understand all the things that made me different and special.

For going to Planned Parenthood with me when I was 19.

For encouraging me to play with Barbies and baby dolls and kitchen sets and makeup when I was little.

For encouraging me to play sports like volleyball, baseball, snowboarding, hockey and lacrosse.

For letting me play baseball on the boys team, when I didn’t want to play with the girls.

For the MANY MANY times you helped me get organized.

And most of all, thank you for being a strong, confident, beautiful, driven, passionate, intelligent woman for me to look up to. I wouldn’t be half the woman I am today without you.

I love you more than anything in the world! You are my rock, my mom and my best friend!

Love, Fess ♥

My Mom with me and my brother after he was born! Almost 21 years ago!

I couldn’t resist . . .

6 May

Saw this on a tumblr feed and I couldn’t resist posting it for everyone. I’m a huge someecards fan anyways.

If you haven’t already spent hours checking out their cards I highly recommend it! Love this!

. . . only if she swallows

Even a real life Cinderella didn’t meet their body image standard . . .

5 May

I think she's beautiful . . . even before photoshop!

I have my own opinions about marriage and I don’t think it’s for everyone. But surprisingly, I found myself really into the Royal Wedding. Usually, I’d be repulsed by the abusrdity of some of the traditions (like when the priest asked “who givith this woman” and Kate Middleton’s dad physically gave her hand to the priest, who gave it to Prince William. *gag* Please, she’s almost 30 years old, I’m pretty sure her daddy doesn’t make her decisions for her any more). On the other hand, I have a lot of respect for her for taking the word “obey” out of their vows. I can only imagine that she didn’t have too much say over how it went, so the fact that she had “obey” removed deserves so much credit. I think it shows she really is a modern woman.

As I was watching the whole thing go down I realized that Kate looked SO incredibly happy. I guess I was expecting her to be nervous or some royal version of bridezilla, but instead I found her to be incredibly enchanting. I thought her dress (as well as her sisters) was the perfect mix of class and sex, modern and tradition. I was completely captivated by her.

I read in a couple different places that she went from a size 6 to a size 2 for her wedding. This is a common thing for most brides so I wasn’t too surprised to hear that. However, yesterday at the Huffington Post I read an article about how the magazine Grazia had photoshopped Kate Middleton’s wedding photo for the cover image to make her waist look much slimmer than it already was. Grazia told the Huffington Post:

 “Grazia did not make any changes to the image of the Duchess of Cambridge to make her look or appear slimmer than she is.”

Do they think we’re stupid? All you have to do is look at the two pictures to see they did a good squeeze job on her waist. This is so discouraging! Kate Middleton looked so stunning and sexy and classy and happy on her wedding day. She’s a real life modern Cinderella story! She’s a size TWO! How much skinnier did she have to be for the media to consider her skinny enough? I guess in today’s world, even Cinderella isn’t skinny enough to escape the devastation of photoshop. Maybe she should have tried for Barbie instead of Cinderella . . .

Here’s the photo:

Turning Women into Meat . . . Literally

4 May

I realize that this HUSTLER cover is really outdated (June 1978), but I think it’s important to talk about. This was the cover of a HUSTLER magazine form 32 years ago. Yet, I still feel like it’s relevant to how women are viewed in the gentleman’s magazines of today.

Yesterday started reading the book Pornland: How porn has hijacked our sexuality. So far I’m loving the book! I’ll be sure to post some updates about it!

Any thoughts on this image?